Robert Stringfellow “Bob” Walker IV
Died Jan. 13, 2016
NORTHPORT
- Bob Walker of Northport, Michigan died peacefully surrounded by family and
without pain on January 13, 2016. He had been diagnosed with lung cancer in
2011 and had undergone extensive treatment and recovery, which granted him four
years of joy with his friends, family and grandchildren. He died from
complications related to pneumonia at Munson Medical Center in Traverse City.
He was 74.
Bob was
born in Cambridge, Massachusetts on February 1, 1941 to Robert Stringfellow
Walker III and Ruby Shelledy Walker. His brother, Stuart Carter Walker,
joined the family in 1944. Bob attended Darien High School in Connecticut
and Woodberry Forest School in Virginia. Following graduation from high
school, he enlisted in the Marine Corps, where he served as an expert small
arms instructor, thanks in part to his boyhood shooting with his nearly blind
father and grandfather in Virginia.
After
four years in the Marine Corps, Bob was appointed to attend the United States
Naval Academy in Annapolis, Maryland. He was honored to serve in various
leadership positions, including Company Commander. His service to his
country in the Marines and Navy was a source of great pride for him throughout
his life. Following Annapolis, he graduated with a degree in engineering
from the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor.
Bob was
introduced to the love of his life, Helen Kathleen “Taffy” Terhune, by their
life-long friend Margo Gillespie, when he was one of Margo's three escorts to
her debutant ball. After immediate mutual attraction, they dated for
eight years. Taffy accepted his second marriage proposal, and they were married
at the First Federated Church in Peoria, Illinois in 1970. They affectionately
called each other “Our Darling” ever since. Taffy recalled the serious concern
she had on their wedding day: the risk of running out of topics of conversation
with her new husband.
Bob and
Taffy were blessed with three children, Robert Stringfellow “Tad” Walker V, Christopher
Carter "Chris" Walker, and Helen Heidrich “Wendy” Walker, all of whom
he guided and loved dearly. He coached their soccer and lacrosse teams in
elementary school and traveled to games in high school and college. He
instilled sage advice to his children when it comes to matters of the heart. He
advised them to remember the five most important words of a spouse: “I agree
with you, dear.”
He grew
up on the golf course at Wee Burn Country Club in Darien, where he recalled
evenings playing holes 3-5 with his parents and brother Stuart, while their
dogs chased other birdies. He loved to play a quick nine with his kids and
Taffy at Northport Point. He played the best golf of his life just weeks
before his death. He loved sailing, but after years in the Navy, he was glad to
have others polish the brass. He often went on sailing adventures with
dear friends Marian and John Niles in Europe and the Caribbean, where he
enjoyed the sun, the water and the exotic scenery. He loved flying with his
great friend Frank Scalcucci, sometimes over Lake Michigan in a Cessna to watch
the Green Bay Packers play football. His favorite delicacy was sushi, often
enjoyed in the company of his brother Stuart and his wife Keiko.
Bob spent
most of his professional career working in finance and management positions
with International Business Machines, first in Detroit and then in New York. He
loved his work, and Taffy felt IBM was his mistress. He retired from IBM after
35 years in 2002, and IBM has never recovered.
Later in
life, Bob and Taffy retired to Northern Michigan where they sang and danced to
their own tunes and in community theater, including productions of My Fair
Lady, Oklahoma!, and The Sound Of Music. Bob became an active member of
his local church and charities. He and Taffy spent months helping to rebuild
New Orleans and Mississippi after Hurricane Katrina, making over eight trips
there.
Education
was a top priority for Bob. He was a life-long student and was interested
in finance and history, especially World War II. It was a great source of pride
for him to have provided for the education of his children and others.
Bob was a stalwart supporter of Woodberry Forest School, an enthusiasm
inherited through its founding by his great grandfather and his grandfather's
fifty-year service as headmaster.
He dearly
loved his family: his soulmate of fifty years, his three children, his three
daughters-in-law, his four grandchildren, and his Labradors, Rocky and Pebbles,
whom he loved to take for walks and to give “puppy pats."
Bob was
predeceased by his mother and father. He is survived by his wife, Taffy
of Northport, MI; son, Tad, and his wife Season Petering of San Francisco, CA,
and their daughter, Grace; son, Chris, and his wife Laura of Berkeley Heights,
NJ, and their children Elisabeth, Carter and William; daughter, Wendy, and her
wife Elizabeth Ghilardi of Saratoga Springs, NY; and Bob's brother Stuart
Walker and his wife Keiko Shingai of Sapporo, Japan.
Bob was
grateful for the excellent doctors and nurses of Munson Medical Center and the
greater Traverse City area, who cared for him in life, eased his transition to
death, and counseled and comforted his family in their time of need.
Lovingly
written by his children. Semper Fi!
In lieu
of flowers, donations may be made to Trinity Church UCC, PO Box 156, Northport,
MI, 49670 or Room to Read (.org).
A service
at the Atwill Memorial Chapel of Northport Point will be in May or June.
Arrangements
are with the Martinson Funeral Home and Cremation Services of Leelanau.
Dear Taffy and Family, Your friends at the Business Helper are sad at the passing of Bob. We know that he will be greatly missed by you and the community. Our hugs and prayers are with you during this time and into the future. Mary, Brian and the Biz staff
ReplyDeleteDear Taffy and Family, Bob was one of those special people I considered both a patient and a friend. He set high standards for enjoying life, helping others, and accepting illness. Ann and I will miss him
ReplyDeleteBob and I served together during our tours at NAPS and at the Academy. I remember him as a squared-away, smart, and friendly Marine. At the Academy we were in different companys and i lost track of him during the "fun" of plebe year. He was well-liked and will be missed. Semper Fidelis !
ReplyDeleteBob was a very important and loved person to me in my life. He and Taffy have helped shape who I am today. It was a great joy for me to see Bob during his retirement rediscover his personal passions for life. In a world that promotes a "self first" approach to life, his humble, quiet, and yes, imperfect dedication to provide for his family was a great example to me of selfless service to others. Bob was the straight man to Taffy's stand-up, providing the spotlight that fed her soul. It will always be a great honor to meat that I was able to serve him, at a moment towards the end of his life, when he needed my help. He helped bring my best and oldest friend into this world and I will miss him dearly. May Christ bless you and keep you as you rejoice in heaven with our Lord. Peace and love to all of us that grieve his loss.
ReplyDeleteBob Walker was a very special man. I feel blessed to have known him and call him my friend. He believed in reaching out to help others in many different settings. I began to know Bob as we served on a committee charged with providing financial assistance to people who needed support to be part of a new utility process in the area. Bob took this duty very seriously. This experience with Bob taught me about his open and compassionate heart, as well as his intelligence. I believe his cancer diagnosis, treatment and fight back to health only intensified his passion for helping others. Bob, you will never be forgotten. You live on in all of us whose lives you touched. Tom and my thoughts are with Bob's family as they walk through these difficult days.
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